Loving to Live; Dying to Love – The Intentional Investment to Love

What to tweet? What to tweet?

 Okay, so it’s been a few days (maybe a week?) since I have tweeted or posted a status update on Facebook. Letting you know that I am drinking fresh, ground hot coffee, while sitting on a comfy couch in front of a toasty warm fire in the fireplace (yes, with my pink fluffy slippers on) was not the jolting update I was looking for.


What to say? What to say?


I perused through the updates of my friends to see if my creative juices would connect with their deep thoughts to create something profound.


Shoot. Nothing.


A friend is overseas, exhausted from the flight. Not gonna happen here.


Another friend took his family to a pumpkin patch. Nope, not there.


Someone went to bed at 9pm last night. Really? Why?


Switch to Twitter. La-dee-da-da-da-da. Scrolling down Twitter is like scanning through silent noise and quiet chaos. Sales links. Star gossip. Political thoughts. Oh…something philosophical. Quote for the day. Scripture verse. More bad gossip. Another ad link.




Using Twitter as a launching pad to brainstorm a creative thought may not have been the Einstein action of the day. Retreating back inside of my own brain, I decided that maybe 2 cups of coffee would have to suffice to jump-start the neurons in my head to get the synapses flowing.


Success appeared because I found myself typing:


To truly love is to die; but you aren’t truly living until you do.


Can I just say, for the record I don’t know where that thought came from except that I am saddened by the deterioration of morality within our country. That would have to be my motive in this tweet. I think if people really understood, really knew deep down inside, that love isn’t self-demanding, but self-requiring, our world would be a happier, more peaceful and much safer place to live. There would be less fighting, less turmoil, and fewer wars.


Love is dying to yourself, dying to your own needs, in exchange for fulfilling the needs of others. If everyone really captured that philosophy deep inside of their souls, no one would ever go without. I know it sounds euphoric and completely unrealistic in the world that we currently live in, and that may be so. However, we could start within our own circle, our own network, and work out from there. Better yet, let’s take it down a notch to an even smaller scale: our family, our jobs, and our neighbors.

Greater love has no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. (John 15:13)


I believe that we are called to lay down our lives for our friends while we are still alive. It is more convenient to die for someone in death, than to die for someone in life.


That can be painful. Ouch.


It’s easy, as parents, to die daily for our kids. We learn that the minute they are born, as we immediately give up our sleep, our time, and our money. Who really wants to see the majority of their weekly budget going to diapers, wipes, burp clothes and stain remover? I know I didn’t.


But, what about dying daily for those who appear “un-lovable?”


What about people we don’t even know?


I was recently at a women’s conference standing next to a lady with a very cute bracelet. Whimsically, I pointed to her bracelet and said, “That is SO me!” She immediately took it off and handed it to me.


“Here, it’s yours.”


“What?” Slightly embarrassed and completely shocked, I replied. “No. No. No, I was just admiring it. I can’t take your bracelet, it’s yours.”


She held out the bracelet closer to me. “No, you take it. I’m supposed to give it to you.”


What? She’s supposed to give it to me? Why?


Not exactly sure why I was suppose to take the bracelet, I did. God is a mysterious being, but I do know enough about Him to know that He loves our obedience. Putting the bracelet on, I thanked her and silently asked God to bless her generosity.


Now, I know what you are thinking: Giving someone a bracelet may not seem very monumental compared to the multitude of critical issues our world is facing; however, receiving the bracelet was monumental to me, and just what I needed that particular day. We don’t always know why we are supposed to do something for someone, or even what they are going through. Remember, what is on the outside is only a small percentage of what is really going on “behind the scenes” of someone’s life. It is impossible to know the complexity of a life just by what is seen with the eyes.

But God knows.


Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to do it. (Proverbs 3:27)

(Yes, that verse really is in the Bible.)


You may say, “Well, I am not really in a financial position to help anyone right now. I am the one who needs help! I can’t help you.”


You can’t, or you won’t?


Friends, money is not the only vehicle used in blessing others.


We all know of ways to give to others, because we know of ways that we could use a blessing in our own lives.


Dying daily to our own needs bestows upon us a treasure that can only be discovered by experience. Until you try it, and live by it, you will only reap the benefits of what you yourself can produce. Love, through death, results in life. A life without love eventually leads to death; perhaps not the end of a life, but the death of a soul, a spirit or health.


Choose love. Choose life. Choose to die to yourself and gain both.


The thief comes not, but to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly. – Jesus Christ